It’s hard to communicate. Period. The end. People are always getting the wrong idea about what you’re actually trying to say. Not to mention with the invention of texting and the world wide web, it’s made the already complicated task even more difficult!
Communication is hard because people are complex.
The way you communicate with one person may not work with someone else. And yes, I realize, this is very irritating. For an introvert like me, I can barely muster up the energy to hold a conversation for very long much less cater my speech to fit someone’s needs. But I still do it. Why? Because I’m learning that honest, raw, communication is one of the most important and intentional skills you can have as a person.
I’ll admit to you, sometimes I’m lazy and I don’t “feel” like switching up my communication style. I just want to speak one certain way and hope that people understand where I’m coming from. I wish sometimes to just be completely inside my head and not have to speak at all…and believe me, there are days when I do that. Sometimes I wish to be sarcastic all the time and not consider whether something I’m saying is affecting someone negatively. But I’ve watched a lot of people, including myself, ruin relationships because they didn’t learn how to communicate properly with that specific person. It’s not to say that we don’t know “how” to relate to the people we love and talk to them from the heart, it’s simply that we don’t take the time to contemplate everyone’s differences.
Smartphones are basically all the same. We learn how to use one, examine all it’s features and facets and then we’ve got it! No need to change any settings or the ring tone. Everything is just as it should be. And to top it off, we communicate with our phones in only one simple way. We either type out thoughts with our hands or we speak them to a computer voice which then communicates on our behalf. As a matter of fact, as I was searching for an image to use for this blog, when I typed in the word “conversation” in the search box, the main pictures that popped up were people talking on their phones. What?! This is madness and it needs to end.
Anyway, all of this to say that we have become a people who are great at communicating with technology but we might be losing our edge in communicating directly to people. Technology is great and all, but give me a room full of four amazing, interesting individuals and I could care less about likes on Instagram or who’s putting out the funniest Vines. People are deep, intricate, insightful, inspiring, unique, complex, difficult, emotional and overall just plain freakish sometimes. But hey, this is who we are right? Don’t we all secretly want everyone to know how crazy we actually are? Don’t we want them to discover how to communicate their thoughts and feelings with us so that we understand their type of crazy too? I don’t know about you but I want to understand different cultures, be able to get inside people’s heads and figure them out, and overall just be capable of communicating with people who are nothing like me and also those that are.
Speak to be heard, listen to be known. I want people to know that I’m listening.
Oh, and by the way, I missed a comma in the title. You get the picture.